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Shackles of our EGO and my understanding of Love ❤️ 

You know, the biggest disease in today’s world is “What will people think.”

“Don’t be a football of other people’s opinions. Don’t worry about what others think about you. In fact, nobody has time to think about you” ~ Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

I have been misguided by my own thoughts, I have always blamed society for moulding me to care about what everyone thinks of me, of my actions, my weight, my intelligence…. My entire life!

Truth is, as I have transitioned from how I was raised into adulthood, I have come to realize and accept that, it is nothing other than my own ego that has stopped me from doing whatever makes me happy because of “Who is watching.”

Life is way to short to follow the masses…We may not open our eyes tomorrow, so…

When you hear the music, and deep within your core, all you want to do is dance; get out there and do it… NO MATTER WHO IS WATCHING!

When your heart is heavy, and your spirit needs to reset; cry with all your given strength until your eyes are dry… NO MATTER WHO IS WATCHING!

If something doesn’t sit right in your soul; make an effort to correct it… NO MATTER WHO IS WATCHING!

Don’t be afraid to shower Love onto anyone that you connect with… NO MATTER WHO IS WATCHING!

Love is a scary thing, it is a rose, delicate, yet the thorns can cause your soul to bleed.

We box it into dofferent levels of love; the love for our family, love for our children, for our partners, but I have recently learnt that love is not meant to be boxed. It is a common emotion that we all feel, a universal language and something that is not meant to be controlled, yet we are so caught up with our own ego, our mind and an “intelligence” which forces us to control it. It is unnatural to control this, it’s not meant to be controlled.

Love has no status or boundary, you can love the one who begs at the corner of the street, you can fall in love with a person just from a quick glance in their eyes, you can love your best friend of the opposite sex, with a pure love and no feeling of lust, love for God, love for nature for animals… the list is endless!

As I said “IT IS THE UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE” If we would just drop the brick wall that we’ve built in front of us and open ourselves up to the pain and joy of it, we would experience the true power of it all!


Take care of you, do what makes you happy,  you do not always need to do what others expect of you, because at the end Of the day, when you lay to rest, you are left alone with your mind, not the minds of those who we think are watching us, just you and your mind, and as an adult, we have a say in how peaceful that mind is at the end of everyday. ❤️

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Riding this wave with pleasure!

When I turned 30 this year, I felt an immense amount of pressure to do something big, try something different, or start some kind of new chapter. To be quite honest, my spirit was dull because, everyone who isn’t 30 yet, looked at me with an expectation of “What are you going to do now?”and friends who are already 30 (And single) were telling me that I am at the beginning of the best chapter of my life,  as a result, I feel this salient obligation to society to make my 30’s epic.

Should I travel more, work more, get a dog, do I pick a human and date it, gym harder, get a new look, change careers… WHAT? I then decided, the best is to to give up being a people pleaser and wake up every morning as I have for the past 30 years and do whatever I feel like.

 Anyway, the real reason I am writing this blog:

A few of my friends (Girls) who have turned 30 before me and are still single, often go on about how they need to settle A.S.AP, how they are hoping to find someone and start a family…. YAAAAWWWN.

Do you have any idea how exhausting it is, to think, that you’re going out on an awesome girls night but instead, the night turns into a huge session of having to listen to someone go on and on and on and ONNNNNN about how she needs a man and how she prays everyday for the right man to swing by? What happened to enjoying a moment for what it actually is?

So now that I am 30, I FINALLY feel it safe to voice my opinions on, still being in the market at 30 and beyond. Truth be told, I feel that there is nothing sexier then being 30, single and absolutely fabulous!!!

Think about it, there’s nothing or no one stopping us from doing anything we want, and we can do it anywhere in this entire world. For me, it’s a bit of a blessing that I am a loner, mostly because I hate waiting on people to make up there minds. I want to wake up, decide and do, my motto…

Don’t think just do!

If you’re not a loner and you’re 30 with no man on the horizen, best you try and start enjoying your own company,  because once you do, you will have the time of your life. It’s a sense of freedom that you can never get if you are committed to anyone.

Yes yes, I know being married or popping them babies out could be fun expensive and exhausting too, at some point in my life I did want it, but this marriage thing has to wait a little, just till I have exploited this freedom of the third decade, first as a single woman, then maybe later I’ll pick that human and settle.

Before I start sounding like a complete feminist, which I definitely am not, I do have to point out, that I have been in a long term relationship at some point, and I know the transition so well, the one from doing your own thing, to now having to compromise on certain things to accommodate a new person in your life. The thing about this transition is that, it happens so quickly, it’s like a massive tsunami that hits you, knocks you off your feet and before you know it, you are riding a brand new wave, it’s a great thing, but you also now have to start compromising on certain things and may not be able to do as much as you could when you were single.

My advice…

Embrace the single wave, exploit every opportunity that presents itself, don’t waste time praying for a man, rather make a few million dollars before 35, travel every inch of the world, make a new friend everyday, do something that will change your tomorrow, so that when that tsunami hits, you have no regrets and an amazing story to tell!!!

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Simple Fruit…

In the last post I touched on something along the lines of happiness being a choice and that it comes from within. You know, one can’t go around looking for it somewhere, it’s not a material object which you can buy from the store, or download from the internet, you cannot google “Where do I find happiness” well you can, but the internet isn’t really aware of what it is that you need at that particular time, also what we as humans need to be aware of, is that, what defines happiness to one individual is completely different to the happiness of another.

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I am mindful of the fact I have just stated the obvious to some, but for others, this isn’t as easy to understand. Humans have a tendency to contort the natural.

We complicate life way too much, life is simple, for example, a fruit grows on a tree, we pick it, wash it and eat it, easy right?….NOT!!! We than decided to take apples and make toffee apples, add cream to strawberries, peaches drenched in syrup, apple crumble, pickled pears and thousands more. In essence what we have done is, put a lot of hard work into taking something, which is naturally perfect, and making it into something we think is better, and in doing so, we have warped a simple fruit, removed everything that is healthy about it and than we feel fat from all that sugar and cream. This is what we have done with our lives.

The inspiration behind this blog, is that I have just read something about how one goes about being happy, it consisted of clear step by step instructions as to how to go about it. In my honest opinion, it really is just a bang load of hog wash. The truth about life, according to me, is that there are a few constants i.e:

  • Everything is always changing.
  • Very few things in this world are permanent.
  • We are all going to die at some point.
  • You’ll have great chapters and bad ones.
  • You will lose people you love.
  • Not everyone will like you and you won’t like everyone.
  • Boys are stupid Grown men are sometimes stubborn and behave like children.
  • And the mother of them all “Karma’s a bitch.”

Once we understand and accept this, we really don’t have to worry about much.

Just take it easy!

In this day and age, it is essential to attempt to go back to basics, we are a generation who have lost that certain classic element that our grand parents and parents had, we are some-what spoilt. There’s an appreciation that we don’t have anymore, there’s a respect that has gone adrift. As much as I love technology and how convenient it has made our lives, I feel this is the reason we have lost the value of life.

Yes it is an incredible time to be alive, we are in a technologically advanced era, there is so much to learn, happiness these days, for some, is getting the latest cell phone, being up to date with new software, new accesories to improve our lifestyle, however, this is merely temporary, true happiness at the end of it all, should mean enjoying the simplicity of life, a moment spent talking to your parents, a conversation with someone new, embracing the beautiful summer rain, walking barefoot on the grass, appreciating pretty flowers, being one hundred percent where you are and not worrying about the next minute which is beyond your control, accepting that moment for what it is, being a mum, dad or wife, playing a sport, dancing, eating good food, hearing the voice of the one you love, a hug, a surprise phone call… This is the simple fruit that I speak of, and it costs nothing!

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No skype call can match the feeling of a warm hug, no kindle can match the smell of a new book, no picture of your travels can capture, the vibration, sound, and smell of being in a foreign country. We get so caught up in wanting to take pictures everywhere we go, that we forget to drop the camera and embrace the moment for what it is.

Once we start being happy with the little things, the bigger things are just the cherry on top. 

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